For many families with aging parents, moving your loved ones into your home may seem like a good way to take care of them. For some families, it can minimize care costs and provide more access to care for your loved one. But taking over your aging parent’s care can be a daunting and full-time task. Generally, it is important to make sure that you, your family, and your parent are all on the same page.
Is My Home Prepared for Moving in an Aging Loved One?
Not only will you have another person in the home, but you may need to consider if your home can accommodate your loved one’s needs. Do you have steep stairs? Do you need to install grab bars in the bathroom? Are there enough bathrooms to accommodate another individual in the home? Do you have any major tripping hazards in the home? Generally, these questions can help you determine if this can be a good move. You may also have to consider other aspects of the move. If they are living with dementia or Alzheimer’s disease, the change in surroundings may confuse them greatly. Understanding these challenges and considering making the necessary modifications where possible can help your loved one greatly.
Changing Your Relationship to Your Parent
Living with your parent after you have lived on your own can be stressful. The Parent-child dynamic can often be strained in these situations. However, when the role of caretaker is reversed, it can be even more challenging. Privacy issues can also arise. It is vital to discuss boundaries and set rules for everyone in the home ahead of time.
How Will Moving My Parent In Affect My Family?
Your children and your spouse will be affected by this move as well. As such, their needs should be considered. You should absolutely discuss the move with your partner before making a decision about it. In-laws can be challenging to get along with, especially in close quarters. While younger children may enjoy having a grandparent nearby, teenagers may not want the added responsibilities of caring for their elder. Give your children the opportunity to raise their concerns and feelings ahead of time, especially without their grandparents present. They should feel comfortable speaking freely about their concerns.
How Will This Impact My Job?
Caring for an aging parent can in many ways be a full-time job. If you are already employed, becoming a caretaker to an elderly parent can become an added challenge. Be sure that you understand the stress that can come with caregiving. You may want to speak with your boss or HR department regarding schedule flexibility. This can be important for accompanying your loved one to doctor’s visits and other needs.
Talking With Your Loved One Before Moving Them
It is important to discuss the needs and expectations of all parties before making any drastic changes. While you may think that this is the best option, you should consider their wishes as well. It is important to provide care where needed, without taking them out of their comfort zone completely.
Financial Considerations to Moving Your Loved One Into Your Home
When considering these actions, it is important to discuss finances as well. Here are a few questions to discuss with your partner and parent.
- Can your loved one afford to live on their own anymore?
- How are their retirement savings holding up?
- Can your current household funds help sustain them?
- Can you afford home modifications for their safety or comfort?
Discuss your options with your family and your parent before rushing into any decisions. You may not feel comfortable taking money from your parent for household expenses, but it may be necessary for moving them in. Be sure to consider the financial ramifications of these decisions as you go forward.
Hiring Help For Your Loved One
When considering the prospect of moving your loved one in, you should also consider hiring additional care for them. Often, in-home care can help your loved one thrive in their own home. Some families choose to move their loved one in and then hire care. A home health aide or in-home nurse can provide care for your loved one while you are not home. This is a great option for those with full-time careers or busy schedules with your children. If you have young children who may also require your care and attention, hiring a home health aide can help reduce your load. It can also help you provide them with more round-the-clock care.
Safe Harbor Healthcare Services does not provide medical, healthcare, or financial advice via articles. This material has been prepared for informational purposes only. It is not intended to provide and should not be relied on for advice.
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