As we grow up, we often see our parents as invincible. We hope they will be around forever. Although we may hope they will, the unfortunate truth is that, most of the time, we will outlive them. As our parents reach the sunset years of their lives, there are a few things you should discuss with them, while you still can. It is important to have these talks while they are still able to. Memory loss issues, such as those from Dementia or Alzheimer’s, can make these discussions difficult or impossible.

Where are Your Legal Documents?

This is the only non-personal question to ask on this list, but it is by no means any less important. It is vital for you and your family to know where your parents’ Wills, deeds, birth certificates, and other financial or legal documents in the event that your loved one passes away.

What are Your Funerary Wishes?

Many families end up having to hastily plan a funeral after the untimely death of a loved one, without truly knowing the wishes of that family member. It can be stressful to put together a funeral service when deep in shock and grief. By talking to your loved ones about their funerary wishes, you can reduce that burden a bit. You can also help them pre-plan their funeral. Pre-planning allows for your loved one to establish their wishes and work with the funeral home of their choice. This can also help reduce the financial issues that can arise when a loved one suddenly passes.

Who Should Inherit This?

Personal items and family heirlooms can be well sought after by family members after a loved one passes. They can often become the cause of strife in the family, and can even lead to probate court. Work with your parents to catalogue any important heirlooms, keepsakes, jewelry, or photo albums, and make a list of who they should go to. Often your parents may have an idea already of who should inherit which keepsakes.

Who is in This Picture?

Families often spread out or lose touch over time. Go through some photo albums with your parents, and ask them to identify anyone you don’t recognize. You may have the opportunity to learn about distant cousins or other family members that would otherwise be lost to you. Family history is held in the minds of the elders, don’t lose out on finding out more about your kin.

Safe Harbor Healthcare Services does not provide medical, financial, legal, or healthcare advice via articles. This material has been prepared for informational purposes only, and is not intended to provide, and should not be relied on for medical advice.
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